Just for today, do not anger.
Do not worry and be filled with gratitude.
Devote yourself to your work. Be kind to people.
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Researchers Peter Wason and Philip Johnson-Laird gave a similar test to 128 college-educated subjects in 1972. The most frequently given answer was "A and 4," (46 percent), with "only A" the second most popular (33 percent). Only 5 percent gave the correct answer, which is "A and 9."
It's fairly obvious that you must turn over the A-card: if there is an odd number on the other side of the card, you have proven the statement false. The popular tendency is to also turn over the 4-card to see if there is a vowel on the other side. However, the statement does not say an even-numbered card cannot have a consonant. For the same reason, turning over the S-card proves nothing, since the statement makes no claims about cards with consonants. On the other hand, turning over the 9-card and finding a vowel proves the statement false.
Why does this test fool so many people? The answer is a common act of reasoning called "Confirmation Bias". Research shows that most people prefer confirming something rather than proving something wrong. Therefore, we gravitate toward confirming our beliefs, even when our task is to disprove something. (By turning over the 4-card we're trying to find further confirmation of the statement.) In the process, we make some flawed assumptions...
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Don't you just wish life would always have this magic?
When we think of someone who is strong and independent, what we admire is her strong sense of self, that vital part of the personality that allows her to have a positive self-image, to identify her own wishes and maintain her self-esteem by asserting herself with other people.
The lack of this inner development is the key to borderline problems, which occur when a young child fails to separate her own self-image from that of her mother (1). This happens roughly between the ages of two and three, often because of a parent’s own emotional problems.
A mother’s encouragement of a child’s self-assertion is vital. When the mother suffers from low self-esteem, dependency or feelings of abandonment, she has difficulty encouraging her child’s emerging self, and to introduce an exploring vision of the world, which includes a space for the other as an other, and not a mere reflection of her own fears of rejection for example.
The child experiences this absence as a loss of self, creating also feelings of abandonment that lead to depression sooner or later in the child.
To deal with the depression, the child gives up efforts to support her emerging self and instead, she relies on her mother’s approval to maintain the esteem of a "false self." All these efforts, are to achieve proximity to her.
These are part of a copy or modeling process. And it is maintained by the wish that the the important persons -and over all, their mental representations- will: forgive, forget, apologize, wake up,listen, make restitution, etc. Or make it possible for there to be rapprochement and reunion. These semi-unconscious wishes could be called "the gifts of love"...
Some kind of "living testimony" for the mother's rules and values...so that they, in the imaginary, will become more loving, affirming and nurturing.
In their relationships, they become more concerned with the parental internalization than they are with what is actually happening...
It is because of these patterns of regressive "loyalty", that it is so difficult for them to change...because they have to decide to let go of these wishes, grieve the loss of what never was, never can be or cannot "again" be, so that he or she might be more adequately present in the here and now, bringing more suitable answers rather than the care giver's.
Alex Olivera, Lorna Smith.
(1) When we talk about mother, we mean the person that is most significant and spends more time with the child, fulfilling this function.
Remember that everyone models their parents, this pattern in not about simply modeling but a big replacement of the self, by that of the mothers.
Existe mi historia para el otro? cuando necesita tanto ver su propia historia...para no caer en la tentación de engancharse con la mía..?
Hay puntos en que las dos son relevantes, pero del arte profundo que surge, casi como el duende del flamenco...se encuentra en la inter-subjetividad...Allí donde tu y yo son uno en el racconto. Donde me he perdido de mi y estoy profundamente en tus caminos y puedo ver el mundo con tus ojos, y revisar a donde fue que la solución que intentaste aplicar a aquello que tanto te dolía, empeoro notablemente las cosas...
Y darnos cuenta de repente...como la subjetividad, se inventa entre nosotros... ...